Being Mak-mak and Owning A Home

Salam 'alayk guys! And good morning!

So last Friday I went out with my friend Hz (you can pronounce it as Hertz lol) to IOI Putrajaya. Initially we were supposed to go for hiking that evening at Bukit Gasing, PJ, but me being a sucker for nasi lemak, I persuaded her to postponed the hiking and continue with casual hangout, so that I can succumb myself to nasi lemak at my sister's. LOL!

She picked me up around 11 am, then we went straight for breaklunch at Seoul Garden. Honestly, I don't think Seoul Garden is my thing (even though I was the one proposed for Korean food). Because I can't eat those grilled food without nasi, but if I eat them with nasi, my stomach can't fit with more food! BECAUSE SEOUL GARDEN IS ALL ABOUT STUFFING YOUR STOMACH WITH LOTSA FOOD!

But I found the great soup that suits my taste. I think it's Tomyam Kimchi Stew, it doesn't taste like kimchi at all, but almost like general tomyam at tomyam restaurants. Even Hz agreed that the usual Seoul Garder Tomyam soup doesn't taste much, like it consists of too much spices I think.

Then after ending our luncheon with ice cream, we went round the floor just to walk and calm our almost-bursting stomach, and end up in Harvey Norman. and guesswhat? We didn't only cuci mata at gadgets corner, but also to the rest of the store!

We looked at washing machines. getting awe at the very modern and almost robotic like machines (they were so cool! and also creepy), then choosing what would be our pick, then dreaming of being rich. Then we went to the refridgerator section, and the cycle goes on.

The refrigerator section was where we spent most our time on in Harvey Norman. Those fridges have all kind of characrteristics and the interiors! Most of the time we look at which fridge has the coolest door... Then continue dreaming of being millionaires.

We can only dream.

But really I swear if I own a house and have kachingkaching I'd go and look for the best machines/items/furniture in creating my home. I have my visions on how I want my home to be, well almost English-like. Plus I really enjoyed looking at Keknis' and her mom's ig account, just to look at how they decorated their homes.

I'm really starting to feel like mak-mak you know. But without kids, and obviously without husband. Also a house. Huhu


Afterwards we just went cuci mata at Daiso (a must-stop-by), ToysRUs (and lost my Rebbit's ears *sobs*), Yubiso and bought a scented candle that doesn't smell very much, anddd mostly to satisfy my purse. Poor Hz that doesn't enjoy makeup had to bear with me shopping and cuci mata at makeup stores.


Then we ended our outing and she sent me back to my sister's around 5 pm because she needed to pick up her grandfather after that.


Now eventhough I don't think I spent much that day except on food, I hope that I won't splurge this Friday and just concentrate on hiking.

Yeay Hiking!

Calling names and labels

Salam guys!

I've been wanting to vent out about this issue for months now, but only now I have the time and motivation.

Post GE14, I noticed a lot of unpleasant names and callings being made to some politicians, and I don't get why people would do that because that is just unethical and absolutely rude.

Even more, these brainless people have slandered some individuals with labels that I am pretty sure they themselves don't know what it means, such as liberal.

Like hello you called Dr. Maszlee as liberal but have you ever flip the dictionary or read articles about what it is all about???


I get it these people are not in the same boat with the victims of their callings, but that doesn't give them the green light to keep on insult people publicly. Have they realised that they just showed how shallow and fact-less they are? Reading comments and tweets on social media really portrayed what kind of people dominating the virtual of Malaysia.

Imagine the adults been advising kids to behave and be polite to others and their friends, and that calling names are sinful, has been doing the same thing on keyboards. How hypocrite!

Well, not only post GE14. But also towards celebrities and famous individuals! This kind of attitude has got me wonder that the doers must be a vengeful and full of negativity kind of person. THe kind of person that we should avoid.

Has they got a better thing to do? Is it so pleasant and wonderful to call names and do slanders? are their life that grande and perfect that they have the audacity to insult people?

I have no idea. Because apparently my brain cannot brain this kind of people.

Oggling and fangirling

Assalamualaikum and greetings :)

So, as I keep checking my facebook and twitter, I noticed that now more people are alert about what Allah said in alQuran "good guys for good women" or you can check the exact sentence in surah an'Nur, but I can't remember which verse.

It's a good thing, of course and most of my acquaintances (my friends already realized this alhamdulillah) start to look for 'possible' future-husband or characteristics that they think are necessary in men.

And yes, if we want to look for soleh/solehah husband/wife, we need to change ourselves first as what we would want to find in future husband to be inside of ourselves *somehow i think this sentence is weird grammatically*. People starts to realize this too, and I also noticed some of them trying so hard to change for the best.

What worry me is that, not much people concern about lowering our gaze. Maybe some of them thought its hard to communicate if we couldn't make eye contacts, but there's rukhsah in that. Lowering our gaze is compulsory so there won't be any fitnah physically or spiritually (haram feelings/thoughts).

I don't know about anyone else, but it irked me so much when men don't respect me as to lower their gaze or try not to brush each other. God, sometimes I feel like killing those men, not just teenager boys, but also middle aged men! Im not saying that male likes my looks, but sometimes they just look at you.

Okay, back to the topic. This post is more to girls' side.

So, when I said to lower our gaze, doesn't mean it only applies to 'living guys'. With the k-pop revolution, and the western pop stars, and local actors, Im 100% positive that most girls do oggling and fangirling as a part of their hobbies *and was a part of mine huhu*. I mean like, with by just looking at pictures, or watch their random acts, we(girls) would giggle and roam their bodies *I know disgusting* with our eyes without feeling slightly guilty and all, doesn't that mean we just violated the rule lowering our gaze?

How can oggling and fangirling can be inappropriate and sinful?

Well, when you look at someone that catches your interest, you will start thinking of scenes of pictures or whatsoever that could be nearly as inappropriate as possible without you noticing. Oh come on! Most girls do this to their 'idols'. Okay maybe some not.

Remember about soleh guys only for solehah girls? This could be into details you know, about being soleh and solehah.

So if you like to look at handsome guys, watching their acts, learn their attitude and personality, can you even imagine your future spouse being like that, looking at some random girls with full interest? OF COURSE NO!

Yes, it hit on me like that too when I first realized it because I once liked to stare at good looking guys *pictures only*.

Because, what quality we actually want in our future lifetime partner is the exact quality we need to find in ourselve. It's not that hard to understand now, isn't?

P/s : sometimes I blushed myself whenever I looked into male's pictures
P/p/s : i google the meaning of oggling and found that the meaning is far from what i want it to be meant, but i already wrote this post huhu

I don't mean to insult girls who likes to fangirl over selebrity, this is more to advicing those around me and to myself.

Till then, insyaAllah assalamualaikum :)

Perbezaan

Assalamualaikum, dan selamat sejahtera :)

Kemy tak tahulah ni perkara yang normal atau tak.

Kemy perasan, kalau orang lain macam senang sangat nak outing, nak keluar pergi bandar, nak pergi rumah kawan, senang cerita nak keluar rumahlah.

Macam, cakap je bila dan dekat mana, hah, terus boleh pergi.

Kalau Kemy, nak keluar tu kena rancang awal-awal, like betul-betul awal. Tu pun belum tentu boleh keluar.

Kalau nak keluar rumah tu, kena fikir macam-macam. Mak ayah bagi tak nak keluar, ayah free tak nak tolong hantar dan ambil, dah banyak kali keluar ke, house chores. Banyak benda kena consider sebelum keluar.

Kalau semua persoalan tu dah lepas pun, Kemy rasa tak sedap hati juga nak keluar. Yelah, Kemy bukan jenis yang keluar nak lepak-lepak macam tu. Kalau nak keluar tu mesti bersebab. Lepas tu kadang-kadang fikir juga, mak ayah memang betul-betul bagi ke nak keluar? Sebab kalau fikir balik, kalau Kemy keluar mesti macam tak ada orang dekat rumah.

Sebelum ni Kemy keluar pun bila ada kelas hari Sabtu. Bila kelas habis keluar dengan kawan-kawan, sebab alang-alang dah keluar rumah. Tu pun kena fikir juga siapa nak ambil nanti.

Jadi, bila tengok orang lain ni, yang sebaya atau lagi muda dari Kemy lah,  mudah je nak lepak dengan kawan-kawan Kemy rasa macam mereka ni memang mak ayah tak kisah ke keluar macam tu je?

Tak pun, ada juga yang Kemy perasan, sesetengah tu buat mak ayaha macam drebar, y bawa diorang ke sana ke sini. Mungkin mak ayah tu rela, tapi tak ke tu macam mempergunakan ibu bapa?

Mungkin Kemy je yang macam ni. Sebab orang sekeliling Kemy macam tak pernah sebut pasal masalah ni, kecuali Sapphire Flower.

Tapi, Kemy tak adalah sampai nak merungut dan rasa tidak adil.

In fact, Kemy rasa lebih selamat macam ni, lebih terjaga. Sebab setiap tingkah laku Kemy, mak ayah atau kakak-kakak Kemy tahu dan nampak. Kalau ada yang salah mereka boleh tegur. Dan alhamdulillah, Kemy bukanlah jenis yang bermasalah sosial atau terlalu mengikut dengan arus remaja sekarang. Dan Kemy rasa bertanggungjawab, sebab sebelum keluar Kemy akan fikir dulu jika ada apa-apa perkara yang belum diselesaikan Kemy dalam rumah. Maknanya Kemy tak nak keluar dari rumah dengan adanya perkara yang belum disiapkan dalam rumah. Tak naklah menyusahkan orang lain.

Mungkin bagi orang lain Kemy ni skema, anak mak, anti sosial. Peduli apa. Kemy tak kisah. Asalkan Kemy tahu apa yang Kemy nak buat dan tak bersalahan dalam Islam.

Kalau asyik fikir pandangan orang lain dalam setiap genap kehidupan baik jadi hamba abdi saja. Kemy hidup untuk Kemy, bukan untuk orang lain.

Pernah juga ada seorang kawan lama Kemy ni ajak jumpa keluar, tapi selalu berkebetulan Kemy memang tak boleh keluar masa tu. Kemy tak tahulah dia fikir apa, boleh jadi dia fikir yang Kemy memang tak nak jumpa dia. Tapi, tolonglah, tolonglah faham situasi orang lain.
Bukan semua orang hidup dengan cara yang sama seperti kita hidup.

Kesimpulannya, Kemy buat rumusan yang kehidupan Kemy ni dalam golongan yang terjaga atau high class dalam masyarakat. Mungkin ada yang salah faham istilah high class, bagi Kemy maksudnya Kemy bukan seperti majoriti masyarakat sekarang, lebih mementingkan kehidupan bersosial dari kehidupan bermartabat.

Maruah diri adalah tanggungjawab sendiri untuk dijaga.

Sekian, kalau ada yang tersalah silap, atau ada yang tersinggung, maafkan Kemy, Kemy tak bertujuan untuk berbuat begitu. Hanya ingin meluahkan apa yang terpendam.

Assalamualaikum :)