Always guard up girls!

Assalamualaikum and good evening. As I'm writing this I'm waiting for my bus for Kuantan, but without internet.

So, I'm the type that like to travel or walk alone. Not travel going places, but travel from one point to one point. Get it?

Even though it was my first time, I really like to discover the route by myself and I will feel all proud of myself like how moms pats their children for their straight A's on SPM since I don't need a 'tour' guide to guide me.

Alas, as a girl travelling alone is never a good thing. It's not safe. Anything could possibly happen. Especially this bus 'terminal' called Pekeliling.

Nahh.. my friends always told me that my face is always showing anger, not friendly type and so on. That. Is my defense mechanism. While walking I will avoid any eye contact, eyes on the ground, and keep walking straight.

But then. I noticed this one guy right now. Since my arrival and I don't know if he still does it. He kept looking at me. While hiding his smirk. God seriously I feel like ripping his head off.

People like him. I would consider them as damn dirty pervert. Because, who knows whats on their smalll smallll minds.

Im not wearing attractive outfits. I never wear fancy. No make up. High heels never! So its the man fault. Hah!

People often misunderstood me on their first impression as very-polite girl, ayu, lemah lembut and so on.
Please, I'm the type that often put on my poker face.

And I like to psycho people who disturbs me. (Thats also my defense mechanism).

I guess this is what they call as iron lady.

A lady should be full of grace, polite but on the other side of her is a strong independent woman.

Perempuan dalam Islam pun macam tu. Lemah lembut selalu macam nak goda lelaki. Keras selalu macam tomboy.

So we need a lil bit of this and that gals.

So girls, anywhere you go, either in pack or alone, always head up, walls up, don't let people look down on you because that, is when they found their victim.

#homesweethome!

Duty or responsibility?

Assalam 'alaik and good day to everyone!

Regarding the tiltle, really what's the different between duty and responsibility?

Easy.

I'll give you example to make it easy to understand. So you are a student studying away from home, so you are staying either in a hostel or you rent a house. Whichever it is, there will be time you are going home, curing your homesickness and feed the purse.
But then, is that it? Is that your only reason why you are going home? Really?
Oh well then too bad you're too shallow.

Should not you be helping your parents doing house chores taking care of your siblings and such? Should not you be listening to your parents problems and worries after the weeks and months you left them?
Should not you be the reason why your parents are smiling and feels like burdens are lifted from their shoulders even for a while when you are home? ---> this is what i call as responsibility.

Duty? I don't know. I just understand the word as giving your parents a part of your salary/allowance.

So think again. Do you go home to be a burden to your parents, or to lighten up their works?

Parents are not slaves. They do not do and make things for you.

You have grown up. You can stand on your own. Hence, do make things easier for your mother and father.

One of my dream

Assalamualaikum guys!

It was rainy just now in PJ so today is not a hot kind of day. But there was a situation that somehow managed to turn me boiling hot. It's okay. I know it's one of the tribulations He gave me.


So, being here studying in an Islamic college, I sort of have a tendency of studying religion, wait, not study religion (i do take religion study course), it's like more to getting into the deep of Islam.
Here in my college, it's normal to find out a student is a hafiz or hafizah. and I kind of get jealous of them. because they had the opportunity to memorize the amazing al-Quran. I mean, who wouldn't?


So yesterday I told my dear roommate, I know an effective way to memorize the Quran, and she asked how?

LET'S COMPETE!

yeah and so we agreed to start memorizing juz 'amma, juz 30 since the sura in that juz are shorter and easy to memorize and in shaa Allah applicable easily in solah. the duration agreed for the memorizing is 3 weeks=1 month.

But we haven't think who is going to be the listener, to listen our tasmi' later. Nahh... we can find that person after this.


So, one of my dream here is to memorize the Quran by heart. I am so inspired by those who can simply extract a point from the Quran just like that to strengthen their arguement in a statement. And one of my ustaz really encourage us to memorize the Quran. He told us that he memorize the Holy Book only in 2 MONTHS! Imagine that!


and my another dream is also to memorize, but now is the 40 hadiths by Imam Nawawi with the syarah (explanations). It will be so awesome if I can achieve both dreams!


If a girl can dream, then I can make it a reality!

pray for me guys! :)

السلام عليك! 

Being a committee

Assalamualaikum peeps!

It has been a while and I have this thing bugging me to share to the whole wide world!


It's about the benefits and cons of being a committee in an organization.

Here in my college residence building, the rooms are divided into smaller groups called hisbah. Since I was in semester 1, I've been holding a post as the Da'wah and Tarbiah bureau in my hisbah until now, semester 3 (first year). To be honest, I am really the type that like to hold a position ever since from my secondary school years. I just can't stand sitting around swaying legs like I have nothing better to do.

So, holding this post has involved me into so many activities with me as one of the committee members and the positions I got changed for every activities we did.

Some activities were under my hisbah program while the others were from my Da'wah and Tarbiah (DnT) members from the whole residence building.

There were lots of them from semester 1, but the one that keeps burning on my mind is our preparation to celebrate Eid Fetr Day in the building. The preparation was devided to hisbahs, and my hisbah had to make nasi himpit (the kuah and others we ordered it from outside vendors). We had so much fun working together, our fellow bought bags of rice and plastic bags. So we put the rice equally inside the plastic bags and stapled them and holed them with forks while tightened our ukhwah together. After that, we boiled the rice in the plastic bags in a huge kawah filled with boiled water! Im sure outside the college I won't experience that kind of thing!

During the fasting months also we had to managed the solat tarawih so everyday we had to unrolled mats on our open hall (we call it ZC Square) then we had to prepare some refreshments after they have done praying. One thing here is that we practised on how to serve the food properly so it looks more appetizing and yeah, proper.


The latest event we (DnT) had conducted was a talk entitled Walk Towards The Path Of Light: Second Chance. And guess what? I was given a post as the Program Manager!

Honestly, I don't know how to work as a manager, but my head head DnT sure taught me a lot. and my fellow was awesome too! My other committee members not to mention were so competent in handling so many tasks. I thought I did nothing that I was afraid being called as 'useless PM'. Ok alright. Long story short, the event was a huge success!!!

So many people came and we were short of chairs and even though there were some mishaps but things were superb!!

and I can't believe I handled that. LOL.


So, the point of me telling this is that being a committee here has taught me a lot of things. I learnt how to communicate, how to handle things wisely, how to be responsible and the most important is on how to cooperate with other people.

Because sometimes, not all people are of the same mind as us, so we need skills on how to tackle miscommunications or other problems that involved interactions.


I feel so proud I've done a huge achievement myself because at home you can't experience this kind of things. This things is so ... It's hard to find. It's something that you have to feel it yourself.

Till then, assalam 'alaik!

Why you gotta be so rude? - Rude by Magic! review

Assalamualaikum, peace be upon you all my friends!

It has been a while, and today I would like to share my thought and review on the latest hit song by a new canadian group, Magic ; Rude!


The song, I can't deny that it's very catchy and like a candy to my ear. The first time I heard this song through a local radio station, I was like 'wow! what song is this?' Not long later I managed to figure the title and the singer.

Long story short, after I read the lyric I was surprised that this song was meant for the father of 'his' girlfriend.




So, what I'm going to share here is, how this song could influence us in our lives, well particularly on how we communicate with the elderly.

Please read the second stanza of the song ;

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life?
Say yes, say yes 'cause I need to know
You say I'll never get your blessing 'til the day I die
Tough luck, my friend, but the answer is 'No'

In this stanza, there is really nothing wrong with it. Instead, it shows a good attitude of a gentleman asking the girl's father permission to marry her. In Islam too, we have wali, where it is the female's male representative, normally the father when she wants to get married, or being asked for a marriage (if you know what I mean). So basically, I got no problem with this stanza.

However, the chorus ; 

Why you gotta be so rude?
Don't you know I'm human too?
Why you gotta be so rude?
I'm gonna marry her anyway

This part is where I really start to dislike this song. Why? Read the chorus pals! He said to the father 'why you gotta be so rude?' Well, seriously who is being rude here? You asked for his blessing then you cannot simply accused him being rude just because he doesn't like you! 

Yes! He is human! We all know that. He said that to point out that he also has basic needs; which is marriage. But then, he should reflect himself, why the father detested him?

My point here is, just because this song is catchy and you know the lyric, don't let this song influence you! No matter how angry, mad and unfair you feel towards the elderly, NEVER say something that is rude, that could hurt the feelings, and NEVER DISRESPECT THEM! They are older than you.

And of course, everyone's favourite part ; 

Marry that girl
Marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Yeah, no matter what you say
Marry that girl
And we'll be a family
Why you gotta be so
Rude

Yup! He's gonna marry the girl anyway. But don't apply this in your life. There are reasons why the father doesn't/didn't allow them. Like all other parents, I'm sure he only wants the best for his daughter, and he wants only the right man, the one that he believes can take good care of his daughter, can lover her regardless of her flaws, can guide her throughout this life, and most of all the one that can accept her family and respect her parents to marry her. 

Do you think if they simply get married without the father blessings they will be happy? Love, doesn't do things right. Except if it is love of Allah, and love because of Allah.

If they do get married, they are being disrespectful to the father, and the family.

So, do you think this song really gives positive vibes to you?

Read again. Think again.

We have Islam. We have our culture. Don't simply let the western (and local too) entertainment ruin, destroy the culture that we have been proud of.

Never let your guard down.

As in Malay, we would say "Kita kena ada jati diri". Hold unto Islam identity, insyaAllah the best thing would happen in your life! (Including your future marriage!)

I'm sorry if I ever hurt anyone's feelings. Like the title of my blog 'In A Mind Of A Teenager', this is only my opinion, as my brain never stop working thinking about things unrelated to my studies. *sigh

Assalamualaikum and have good day

Real learning experience

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah.

It's been awhile now, and now i have the time and the opportunity to update my blog.

Maybe some of you already know, or maybe not. Now I am studying at Centre For Foundation Studies of International Islamic University Malaysia or CFS IIUM.

Course? Islamic Revealed Knowledge and Heritage. Don't know what is IRK? go google it by yourself. im not going to tell you everything.


so its been three weeks here in PJ, with two weeks of classes.

the things is that, most of my classes are language classes, that are English class and Arabic class.
i dont really mindf about english class since my english is not that bad, but arabic class, oh goodness.

both my lecturers talk and explain in arabic! only sometimes they use english or malay words since they are both foreigners. but still!
I am having a hard time to translate what they are saying and really really struggling to cope with this particular subject.

so here, eventhough i learnt arabic throughout my secondary school years, its still not enough. why? because at school the ustaz ustazah dont speak arabic, you dont speak arabic even if you learn them in class. we learn arabic but in malay. you used arabic but not practically.

so here, we really use arab language in class. we talk in arab ( well aside from talking with friends ), we learn how to read how to write in arabic.
even theres arabic debate club here!


maybe i can do this. i can struggle and do my best for my arab language, since my course subjects are in arabic.


hmm...
and thanks to perri for giving me the spirit to keep up my pace in learning arabic even though it is to tiring. glad to have a sis like you .


thats all i think.
goodnight and assalam

ان الله معي، Sesungguhnya Allah Bersama Aku

Assalamualaikum.

Kelmarin, Kemy ditimpa ujian yang agak berat bagi Kemy, sampai rasa sebak dan tak tertanggung.
Rasanya seperti hati diperah-perah, ditoreh-toreh macam Kemy ni manusia berhati batu dan tak ada perasaan.
Sampaikan Kemy hampir putus asa, hampir lupa dengan Allah, yang Allah berikan ujian tu dekat Kemy bersebab.
Seolah-olah Kemy menyalahkan takdir yang Allah tetapkan dekat Kemy, macam Kemy dah tak percaya dengan Allah.
Astaghfirullahalazim.

Allah je tahu betapa Kemy putus harapan masa tu.


Kemudian ditakdirkan Allah juga, lepas dah rasa lega dan lapang sikit, Kemy buka Facebook (masa tengah putus harapan iman pun down sikit).
Sedang Kemy scroll down, ada status seorang sahabat alam maya menyentak Kemy.

Saat je Kemy baca ayat "Kau Yakinlah Allah sentiasa ada di sisi", Kemy mula rasa sebak kembali.
Bayangkan, Kemy baru je macam putus harapan, tiba-tiba Allah berikan comfort, seolah-olah nak pujuk Kemy kembali.

Kemy dah tak boleh sambung baca ayat tu. Dah terlalu sebak.

Kemy dah putus harapan dekat Allah, tapi Allah masih dekat, masih sayang dekat Kemy.

Allahuakbar. Masa tu juga Kemy menyesal berputus asa, menyesal berputus harap dengan Allah.
Sedangkan Dia SENTIASA BERSAMA KEMY!









Jangan bersedih, sesungguhnya Allah bersama kami.


Betapa rasa berdosanya Kemy sebab menyalahkan takdir.

Allahu, yaAllah ampunilah aku.



Kesimpulan yang Kemy nak kongsikan, walaupun seberat mana ujian, seberat mana dugaan Allah timpakan kita, INGAT, YAKIN, Allah sentiasa bersama kita.

Ada hikmah setiap perkara yang Allah timpa kepada kita.




Assalamualaikum.